Youth Ministry Lesson on Romans 12:9-21: The Power of Connection

As teenagers, it’s easy to get caught up in the challenges and pressures of daily life. However, one essential aspect of our faith that can truly make a difference in our lives is love. In Romans 12:9-21, the Apostle Paul provides practical guidance on how we can demonstrate sincere love in our relationships with others. By focusing on these teachings, we can learn to live out our faith in a way that impacts our world.

Bible Reading 1: Romans 12:9-13

“Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.”


  • Genuine Love: Paul emphasizes the importance of love being authentic and sincere.
  • Abhor Evil, Hold Fast to Good: We should actively reject evil and cling to what is good.
  • Brotherly Affection: We are called to love one another as family, showing care and support.
  • Outdo One Another: We should strive to honor and serve others more than we do ourselves.
  • Zeal, Fervency, and Service: Our love for God should be characterized by enthusiasm and active service.
  • Rejoice, Be Patient, Constant Prayer: Love enables us to endure hardships, remaining hopeful and steadfast in our relationship with God.
  • Contribute and Show Hospitality: We are encouraged to meet the needs of fellow believers and open our hearts and homes to others.

Discussion Questions

  1. Why do you think genuine love is important in our relationships?
  2. How can we actively reject evil and hold fast to what is good?
  3. In what ways can we demonstrate brotherly affection towards one another?
  4. What does it mean to outdo one another in showing honor? How can we practically apply this?
  5. How can our love for God be characterized by zeal, fervency, and service?
  6. How do rejoicing, patience, and constant prayer contribute to our ability to love others well?
  7. How can we contribute to the needs of fellow believers and show hospitality in our daily lives?

Bible Reading 2: Romans 12:14-21

“Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.’ To the contrary, if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”


  • Bless and Do Not Curse: We are called to respond to persecution with blessings rather than cursing.
  • Rejoice and Weep with Others: Our love should be empathetic, celebrating with those who rejoice and comforting those who weep.
  • Harmony and Humility: We should strive for unity, avoiding pride and associating with all people.
  • Do Not Repay Evil: Instead of seeking revenge, we are to pursue honorable actions that promote peace.
  • Living Peaceably with All: As much as it depends on us, we should make every effort to live in peace with everyone.
  • Leave Vengeance to God: Trusting in God’s justice, we should refrain from seeking personal revenge.
  • Overcoming Evil with Good: Rather than being overwhelmed by evil, our love empowers us to respond with kindness and goodness.

Discussion Questions

  1. Why is it challenging to bless those who persecute us? How can we cultivate this mindset?
  2. How can we practice rejoicing and weeping with others in our daily lives?
  3. What are some practical ways we can live in harmony with others and avoid haughtiness?
  4. Can you think of a time when you were tempted to seek revenge? How could applying these teachings have changed the situation?
  5. How can we actively pursue peace with all people, even when it’s difficult?
  6. Why is it important to leave vengeance to God? How does this demonstrate our trust in His justice?
  7. How can we overcome evil with good in our interactions with others?

Youth Group Game: Love in Action

Title: Kindness Relay

Objective: To encourage teamwork and practice acts of kindness.


  1. Divide the youth group into teams of 4-6 members.
  2. Set up a relay course with different stations representing acts of kindness (e.g., writing encouraging notes, collecting food donations, etc.).
  3. Each team member takes turns completing a station before passing the baton to the next teammate.
  4. The team that finishes the relay first, demonstrating kindness and teamwork, wins.

Closing Prayer

“Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you for the powerful message of love found in Romans 12:9-21. Help us grow in our ability to love genuinely and authentically. Teach us to reject evil and cling to what is good. Strengthen us to serve others with zeal and fervency. Grant us patience, joy, and a constant spirit of prayer. Guide us in showing hospitality and meeting the needs of the saints. Enable us to bless those who persecute us and live in harmony with one another. Remind us to leave vengeance to You and to overcome evil with good. Thank you for your love and grace. In Jesus’ name, we pray, Amen.”

Remember, as we learn to live out these teachings, let’s encourage one another and support each other in applying them to our daily lives.

Leave a Comment