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“Grace Over Grief” Bible Lesson for Youth on “Weep with Those Who Weep”

This grief Bible lesson for youth will show teenagers what the Bible says about grieving and how they can share comfort with their friends. Like all our free Youth Group lessons, we recommend this Bible study for teaching Middle School or High School students in your church youth ministry of Sunday School class.Pin

This grief Bible lesson for youth will show teenagers what the Bible says about grieving and how they can share comfort with their friends. Like all our free Youth Group lessons, we recommend this Bible study for teaching Middle School or High School students in your church youth ministry of Sunday School class.

Grief Bible Study Background:

 We all fear awkward moments. Whether they come about through uncertain pauses, wardrobe malfunctions, or poorly chosen words, nobody wants to be responsible for making another person feel odd. This can be particularly noticeable when working with middle and high school students, who are already trying desperately to avoid the awkward sensations that life seems to be putting them through.  We seek to instill a sense of empathy and awareness in teens, hoping to encourage their relational skills and confidence. They are developing personal identity as well as communication dexterity. 

At some point in middle or high school (if not sooner), kids will know someone who is faced with a loss or tragedy. When family and friends are hurting, it can be difficult for adolescents to understand the grieving process and how they should best respond. If someone they care for is experiencing grief, they’ll naturally want to help, but might be nervous about how to do so. It may feel awkward and even scary. Teens might wonder what to say or do. They might tiptoe on eggshells or avoid the situation altogether. They might be overly sensitive or utterly insensitive. Let’s face it, even adults struggle with managing care for a friend who is mourning. It can be even more challenging for an adolescent who is trying to react to a situation they may not understand.

The purpose of this Youth Group Bible study is to provide helpful ideas for teens to reach out to family and friends who are experiencing grief. There is no “one size fits all” method. One of the key challenges of youth ministry is reaching out to students who are diverse in experiences, situations, and personalities. Teens experience grief and react to life in unique ways, and they encounter a range of events and challenges as they move through middle and high school. As leaders, we must be aware of this in terms of how we interact with students. However, it is also important when we consider how students engage with one another. We can assist them in their relationships while also growing in our understanding of their personalities. We can offer suggestions, but admit that we don’t have all of the answers, and that’s okay.

There are a few critical things to keep in mind when dealing with youth who are grieving in any way. These principles should be shared with teens who wish to demonstrate concern with one another. Times of grief are complicated, compassion and information can help teenagers more than you imagine. 

Lesson Opening: (5-10 Minutes) Youth Group Activities

We recommend staring your youth ministry class with some simple youth group games to break the ice and help your students feel comfortable sharing during the Bible lesson.

Tough situations: begin the Bible study by inviting the group members to contemplate difficult events or seasons in their lives. Have students brainstorm things they have experienced that were especially challenging. Allow them to share if they are willing, or have them write items down privately. Encourage them to consider how they felt or reacted during stress. What was hardest about the event/time period?

After this initial conversation (or sooner if it does not yield much), have students think of their reactions when witnessing friends who are hurting. When have they seen people close to them going through a hard time? Is it difficult to know what to say or do? What do they notice about themselves when encountering someone in grief?

If students feel that they have not personally had to go through periods of hardship, invite them to imagine a situation…perhaps challenge them to consider how they would feel if a loved one passed away, or if they received news of poor health. Have them seriously think about the emotions and sorrows that might accompany such a thing. 

*Note: if preferred for anonymity, you may have students write some of these responses down and place them in a collective spot to discuss. If this study is being conducted online, that of course will not be an option. However, teens could still send a private message to leaders only, if desired. 

Bible Study on Grief: (Approximately 20 minutes)

To aid youth who wish to comfort others, offer a Biblical basis for some key principles of demonstrating love and compassion to the hurting. Review a few passages, looking at them one at a time. Allow students to take turns reading these Bible verses, or to read silently or in pairs, depending on your group size, timing, and format. If conducting the meeting online, consider giving all students time to read the passages on their own. Or if time is short, you might share a screen with each passage. After reviewing each one, invite teens to discuss how they think it might apply to a situation of providing hope and healing. A grief Bible verses few examples to provide include: 

It will also be useful to give teens some useful Bible verses to share with those who are grieving. You may even consider providing a list (ahead of time or after) of Bible verses that might be helpful to keep in mind. Often we learn that spiritual growth comes from suffering, especially in the teen years. Many Psalms contain genuine solace for grief or trouble. God’s Word has so much help for depression, a few suggestions include:

“And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.”

Youth Group Follow-up and Fellowship: (10-15 minutes)

Invite students to practice how they might offer support to a loved one who needs care. If you are meeting in person and group members know each other well, allow them to partner up and find a space together. Provide hypothetical scenarios for them to use, and allow them to role play conversations and reactions they might have in those given situations. Encourage them to act out interactions or just discuss with partners how they might handle various challenges.  If you prefer, and especially if this grief study is taking place in an online format in youth group, you can do this exercise as a group. Provide the group with one potential scene at a time, and allow them to brainstorm methods of handling it. Ask them which Bible verses are most relevant for the situation. A few painful times include: 

Discuss with students how they might comfort loved ones in these various situations. Talk about how they could sensitively approach friends and provide genuine care. Offer suggestions if teens are having a difficult time coming up with ideas or reactions on their own. Remind them to consider imagining both perspectives in each case. 

Pain and feelings are a big deal and everyone has their own way of dealing with grief. But God and the Bible offer hope. Moving forward after a lost loved one is a lifelong process.

Close with a prayer. If time and willingness allow, have students share prayer requests and pray for one another. Or consider allowing youth members to share the names or struggles of someone they know, who needs lifted up in prayer. Otherwise, offer a general prayer asking God to provide wisdom and care as we love and serve one another.

If space and time offer availability, let students have a few minutes to chat and fellowship before they depart.  If you are using an online format, and have a large group, you might even split students into “breakout rooms” for them to talk in smaller clusters of friends. (Close: 2-5 minutes) 

Suggested Resources for teens to support others and cope with grief, loss, and depression: 

The Grieving Teen: A Guide for Teenagers and Their Friends (Helen Fitzgerald)

When a Friend Dies: A Book for Teens About Grieving & Healing (Marilyn E. Gootman)

Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love (Earl A. Grollman) 

Resilient Grieving (Lucy Hone)

Tear Soup (Pat Schwiebert) 

Teen Grief: Caring for the Grieving Teenage Heart (Gary Roe)

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